It occurs to me that I have barely stopped to breathe in the past ten months. And now that I’ve paused to write, my whole essence heaves a sigh. They say that transitions, even happy ones, cause turmoil in our systems. We have to grieve when we move from one chapter to the next. Turning the pages can be traumatic.
Because sometimes, you’re catapulted like a rag doll. Other times, you have to place your hand on the doorknob of change and walk through, one baby step at a time. And I don’t know which one is more frightening. Its no big secret that life moves so much faster than we want it to.
My last semester of college, I juggled twenty-one hours worth of college classes that included an internship. In February, I got engaged. In April, I got hit with a fourteen hundred dollar bill on my student account and was afraid to tell my dad about it. I graduated in May and got married in June. At one point during the months since, I worked myself into a ridiculous state thinking I was pregnant, despite routinely taking my birth control pills. Because Craig works full time, I spent my days alone for the most part, in search of my own employment, and in late September, I finally heard back from one of my prospects. I got my first driver’s license at nearly twenty-three years old. And I now work as a case manager for the Division of Family and Children’s Services.
It has most certainly been a year of transitions. And looking back, I have been scared to death throughout the overwhelming majority of it.
There was a day at the tail end of summer that I told my friend Mat that I spent my days paralyzed by anxiety. I don’t think I had ever been so matter of fact about it as I was that day. We were in the middle of the woods, hiking down towards the river, and I could barely look up the entire time for fear I would step on a snake.
I’m not proud of my anxiety. It is the most gruesome limitation.
I can only describe it this way: no matter how many storms you’ve weathered, anxiety is constantly telling you that the next one will be different; the next storm will be the one to steal away your soul. No matter how many times that person has been sympathetic to your needs, loved you through successes and failures, the next one will be the one to strip away that faithfulness.The world, your world, is constantly threatening to fall apart.
Fear shrinks the heart.
Emily Freeman talks about how we tend to glorify people who appear to have it all together, and I think she’s right. I have spent the past ten months bracing myself at every turn, gripping my life and trying like hell to keep things together.
The past ten months have taught me that I don’t have to keep it together in my own strength. They have reinforced the heart-knowledge that I do not have to strive.
Colossians says He is before all things, and in Him, all things hold together. Romans says He is working all things together for my good. Psalms says He watches and protects me tirelessly, that He is my keeper. It assures me that when I am faithful to follow where He leads, that He will enlarge my heart.
Even when it seems like the world is threatening to fall apart. I am held together.
Bob Goff says our actions should betray our uncertainty. And sometimes the most difficult action is simply choosing to fill our lungs with oxygen again.