Coffee Date | Three

Coffee Dates were born at my friend Amber’s place,
and I could not be more grateful for her warm hospitality.


If we were on a coffee date, I would tell you that I’m honestly tired of summer. Blasphemous, I know, but I just cannot take the heat. Blessedly, my weather app is currently calling for a weeks worth of rain, so hopefully that will cool us down and revive the ground. I would definitely be drinking something iced. Don’t get me wrong, I’ll drink iced coffee pretty much any time of the year, but it is an absolute must when South Carolina’s hanging out in the triple digits. Autumn and sweater weather can’t get here soon enough.

If we were on a coffee date, I’d absolutely have to ask you about pen love. Pen love is strong with me, and only in the past several months have I really discovered how strong it is for other people, too. Right now, I am head over heels in love with these pens. They are just so dreamy.

If we were on a coffee date, I’d ask about what you’re reading. I’m getting ready to start Love Does, and I couldn’t be more excited for it. Also, I’m on two launch teams this summer, so I’d have to share about the beauty that is Lysa TerKeurst’s Uninvited, and Shannan Martin’s Falling Free.

If we were on a coffee date, I would ask you to watch this sermonOh my gosh, friend, I was sobbing before Christine Caine ever even blinked towards her notes. I cannot stop listening to it. This woman is so full of God’s love and the knowledge of his word and I want everyone on the face of the planet to watch and listen and soak in the truth.

If we were on a coffee date, I’d tell you how good it felt to take a week away from social networking at the end of July, and how when I met up with my best friend for sushi, she actually said I seemed a lot more peaceful. I’m choosing to believe that those two are related, and trying to be much more intentional about shutting things down. I think I honestly just get sick of (and from) all of the voices, including my own. So I’ve started to ask myself why I post the things I do, and I think that’s probably the very best filter we can use.

If we were on a coffee date, I’d share about how I used to romanticize the wilderness. All of my favorite writers have been sharing about their experiences in the woods over the past several months, and all along, I’ve naively thought how beautiful that place must be. The truth is, the wilderness is not a place for romanticizing, but it is a place for falling in love. And love is messy. Love is going the extra mile and every mile after that. And I want to be a person who goes the extra mile. The hard lesson for the moment is that I have to go the extra mile with myself, too.

If we were on a coffee date, I would ask how your heart is. And I wouldn’t settle for answers of fine or okay. See, I took this spiritual gifts test through our church, and not surprisingly at all, hospitality came out on top. For a lot of people, especially women, hospitality has been diluted down to simply being the hostess with the mostess, but I don’t care about making Pinterest pretty appetizers and making sure you can see the vacuum lines in the carpet. What I care about is how you are following Jesus and what your everyday life looks like and the things that you’re dying to share, even if you’re afraid, and even though there aren’t easy answers. I want you to know that you are welcome here in all your broken glory.

What would you share with me on our coffee date?
I’d love nothing more than to hear your thoughts,
either in the comments or in your own post,
which can be linked up below.

  • Girl, I’ve been thinking a lot about social media apps and how much I use them (especially in the evenings). I don’t know why but the image of me being busy on my phone while Jason is there and our (future) child is begging for my attention has come on my heart many a time. It makes me think about my habits can (and need to) change now. I love to imagine it happening on the 1st of a month or on a Monday or with the start of a new season… Basically, always later. And later isn’t better. So, that’s something I’ve really got to work through. :)

    • The habits become distractions, crutches, ways to hide. I want to break them and walk in freedom. I want to be more in tune with the movement of the Holy Spirit and less startled by phantom vibrations. I want to look people in the eye. Much like you, I think maybe I’ll tackle that tomorrow. I love Christine Caine’s words about that here: http://freshlifechurch.com/series/teaching.php?id=74&tm=3.

      Love you always, my friend. You are a constant reminder of His goodness.

  • I was just telling my husband and brother-in-law yesterday how summer may not be my favorite season. I’m savoring the last few weeks of summer but I can’t wait for fall. Oh, pen love. I’m a fan of this Korean brand Dong-A Hexaplus pens. For general writing, I use Pilot G-2’s. I’m guessing stationery is also one of your love languages? ;) I love how you described the wilderness. I could say the same about the ocean–it’s at once beautiful and terrifying but we can’t let terrors unknown keep us from exploring anyway.

    • Oh gosh, not so much stationery — journals are my downfall! I once tweeted something about how I just wanted to break my lease and go live at Staples. :)

      Yes and amen to the ocean, my friend. <3

  • Ohhhh love does is SO GOOD! I’m excited to hear what you think of it.

  • I love that you’re as excited as I am for Uninvited! I’m so excited to dive into it. Also, I’m totally exhausted from summer, too. The heat can go away – just let me wear a snuggly sweater and boots!

  • I’m so over summer as well. I can’t wait for Fall, it’s my favorite time of year. :)

    Pen love, yess! My favorite pens are Staedtler Triplus Fineliners, they just write so well. http://www.michaels.com/staedtler-triplus-fineliners-20ct/10465077.html#q=staedtler&start=2

  • Erin, if there is a word that FLOODS my mind when I think of you, it’s hospitality. You are warm and and gracious and welcoming in all the best ways, even in the sentences you share. You are a gift. You are refreshing to my soul. I’m so grateful to call you friend!