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Coffee Dates are inspired by my beautiful friend, Amber Thomas.


If we were on a coffee date, I’d be drinking something iced, because it has been in the 90’s in South Carolina in the past few weeks. I’d tell you that summer in the south makes me want to move to Antarctica and never look back.

If we were on a coffee date, I’d tell you about all the things I’m learning about my word for 2016. I’d say that I know how silly it sounds, but I can actually feel myself changing. I’d tell you that we took communion at church last night and I remembered the other thing that Emily said happened on Good Friday. So often, we think only on Christ’s death, and neglect that our own flesh died with him.

If we were on a coffee date, I would definitely talk about community. God has woven something so beautiful over the last eight months. I’d tell you about how we went to dinner and mini-golfed with two new friends and that the whole night was like an answer to prayer. I’d tell you about how we laughed, and it felt effortless, but then I would add that cultivating community really does take a lot of effort. I’d tell you that no matter what, the effort is worth it.

If we were on a coffee date, I’d tell you that even though my community is growing strong and beautiful, I’m still figuring out how to fully be myself. I posed this question in one of Hannah Brencher’s webinars recently. I don’t feel like I am being fake in either area, but I often struggle to bring the depth that shows up in my online community into my IRL relationships. Is this something that you feel, too? How do you navigate it?

If we were on a coffee date, I’d be embarrassed to admit that I’ve only very recently discovered the glory that is Ben Rector. And now I kind of want to quit my job to be his groupie.

If we were on a coffee date, I’d ask if you’ve read this post by my friend Jess Connolly. And I’d tell you how I literally sobbed through the whole thing and felt like she and I were the only two people in the room.

If we were on a coffee date, I’d ask if you know Jane JohnsonHer writing is absolutely beautiful, and homegirl knows the Word. My favorite post of hers as of late is called “So That It Is Well With Them.” Not to mention the posts about how after 10 years of infertility, she took a test and saw TWO PINK LINES! I’m currently knee deep in her 30 day Quiet Time Challenge and I couldn’t love it more.

If we were on a coffee date, I’d share my recipe for grape saladand how it is one of the most delicious things I’ve ever tasted and I want to eat it everyday for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. I recently made it for a Memorial Day cook out because it is the easiest potluck dessert ever.

If we were on a coffee date, I’d definitely recommend Hannah Brencher’s Craving SeriesThis girl has helped me light my own fires in a way that no one else on the internet (or maybe even in real life) has. She makes me more hungry for Jesus.

If we were on a coffee date, I’d ask you if you were grieving for Orlando. Because I cannot imagine the heartache and devastation that they are feeling in these moments. This is the hard eucharisteo that Ann talks about. The kind where there are no words because we’re just so stunned by the anguish.

If we were on a coffee date, I’d ask about your theology of exercise, and if you’ve found something that works for you. Lately, I’ve really felt convicted about how I treat my body. So I’ve started using an app to track my meals and exercise. I’ve been doing cardio on an irregular basis, and I’m kind of getting tired of the treadmill. I’d ask what your recommendations are for exercise programs and/or healthy recipes.

If we were on a coffee date, I’d definitely talk about house buying. It is the next step for me and the man, and I am getting so antsy! But adulting is hard, and I honestly don’t know much about loans and mortgages and building credit. I’d add that you can find my dream house on Apartment Therapy, if you’re curious.

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  • I just love this. These posts are my favorite in how they let us be real, in short snippets, and share so many different things, all in a way that feels genuine and just FUN. I adore your heart and your commitment to chasing Jesus and pursuing health and balance in all areas of your life– you encourage me as I work to set better rhythms for myself! Grateful for you, friend. And also, YOGA. That’s been my go-to workout and it’s been stretching me (ha! pun totally intended!) in ways I didn’t expect. And Jane’s challenge…the best thing. Ever.

  • Hi there! My name is Caitlin — I’m popping over from the coffee date link-up :) Loved your post… I really connected with the struggle between creating depth online & IRL. I think some of us are just stronger in one method of communication over the other. I, like you, struggle with bringing the same depth to my relationships IRL because online communities seem a bit easier in being able to think before you speak, reflect on the idea before responding, etc. ((But girl, if you find a way to have your strengths from online leak over into real life, please share!)) Also, best of luck as you start your house buying journey! My fiance and I started this past December & we’re closing on our house this Friday. It’s a hard journey, but one that’s filled with so many lessons in patience & grace :)

    • Caitlin! So nice to meet you. Don’t you just love Amber and her coffee dates? I’m so grateful for her hospitality and friendship. I totally agree with you on the whole online versus IRL point. I am praying for wise words and a humble heart in my relationships, so that people might look at me and see Christ. Congratulations on your house! What an amazing journey it is. Grace and peace to you!

  • Exercise girl. It’s hard and it’s individualized and that only makes it harder when community is SO BELOVED in your life. I’m a runner. Natural born runner. And so, I want to run when I’m nervous or angry or feel ANYTHING. So, I run most mornings in order to keep myself from being too much of the not-so-good feelings that put me there in the first place. :)

    Community is hard. it’s hard online and it’s hard in person. But it’s also shaping, important, and encouraging. It’s what makes us try new things, go to new places, and get through the parts that hurt REALLY bad. It’s not a breeze, but it’s the breath of our lives. :)